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Browse all Get Style. Browse all Get Strong. Browse all Get Social. Browse all Get Skilled. This article series is now available as a professionally formatted, distraction free paperback or ebook to read offline at your leisure. It has since been updated. Being reliable. Compare that image with its opposite: the flake. Floating, drifting, fragile. Melting as soon as it meets any resistance. We admire the former, and avoid the latter.
Why Be Reliable? Only recently a prominent public man was criticized throughout the newspaper world as one not having enough character to keep his promises. He had not the stamina to make good when to do so proved difficult.
The world is full of these jelly-fish people who have not lime enough in their backbone to stand erect, to do the right thing. They are always stepping into the spotlight in the good-intention stage, and then, when the reckoning time comes, taking the line of least resistance, doing the thing which will cost the least effort or money, regardless of later consequences.
They think they can be as unscrupulous about breaking promises as they were about making them.
But sooner or later fate makes us play fair or get out of the game. The reliable man forges deeper relationships. Relationships are built on trust; without it they wither and die. Without this steady reliability in your mood and behavior, your loved ones will begin to withdraw from you, and feel they must walk on eggshells in your presence.
The reliable man receives greater opportunities. When people see that you can be relied upon, they will give you more challenging tasks and responsibilities that will in turn allow you to grow, learn, and become a leader. A boss promotes the reliable employee to higher positions; the professor offers research opportunities to the reliable student; the team picks the reliable man as its captain.
The reliable man is given more freedom. The reliable young man receives much less supervision and is given greater responsibility over his time. The reliable man gains a reputation for integrity. Integrity thus implies the state of being complete, undivided, intact, and unbroken.
Such a state contrasts with one that is scattered, fragmented, and incomplete. They know he is a rock of strength on which they can rely.
The reliable man lives with confidence and a clear conscience. In always doing his duty, keeping his promises, and fulfilling his obligations, the reliable man is free from the pangs of regret that haunt less dependable men. Not only can other people count on the reliable man, he knows he can count on himself.
This breeds the courage and confidence he needs to Searching for a dependable,honest,true man on greater challenges and adventures. The reliable man le a simpler life. Keep your promises. Being a man of your word: this is the cornerstone of reliability. Which is why you should make such grudgingly fulfilled commitments extremely rare by not overextending yourself, which brings us to our next point. Never affect to be other than you are—either richer or wiser. A promise once given is a bond inviolable. A man is already of consequence in the world when it is known that we can implicitly rely upon him.
I have frequently seen in life a person preferred to a long list of applicants for some important charge, which lifts him at once into station and fortune, merely because he has this reputation—that when he says he knows a thing, he knows it, and when he says he will do a thing, he does it. The promise of the reliable man is an enormously valuable thing, since it will unswervingly be fulfilled. For this reason, you will find yourself being asked by others to take on more responsibilities and will be offered more opportunities than the flake.
Some of these will grant to you valuable chances for growth, learning, and leadership. But some will simply overextend you and take you further away from, not closer to, your goals and priorities. Thus, being reliable does not mean saying yes to everyone — quite the opposite. The reliable man must use great discretion when making Searching for a dependable,honest,true man to others.
To counteract these causes, you should: Ask yourself whether you could do it tomorrow. Double your estimate for how long you think it will take. Part of our overly optimistic forecast for the future is thinking an event or task will take less time than it actually will. When weighing whether to commit to something, double your knee-jerk estimate of how much time it will require of you, to make sure it will really fit in your schedule.
Better to over deliver than over promise. Give yourself a day to think it over. This will give you time to really think it over instead of answering on impulse and regretting it later. This is one of the most important skills a young man can master. Manage expectations. When you make a promise or take on a job, be careful to be realistic about when and what you will deliver. But inflated expectations can lead to big-time disappointment — sinking your chances of repeat business with the current client and damaging your reputation for potential future ones.
If you do make a promise that truly dire and unforeseen circumstances prevent you from fulfilling, let the person know as soon as possible. Always strive to be prompt in your responses to online communication as well. Will get to work!
Make up your mind that it is better to accomplish perfectly a very small amount of work, than to half do ten times as much. What you do know, know thoroughly. Whatever you do, do it well. Do your best work whether the task is fulfilling and important, or menial and mindless. In great matters men show themselves as they wish to be seen; in small matters, as they are. Be consistent. Consistency is a huge part of reliability. These men lack consistency, and thus fail to gain the trust of others, and build faith in themselves.
The reliable man develops consistency by setting goals for himself that stretch and challenge him, but are doable day after day. I hate a thing done by halves.
If it be right, do it boldly; if it be wrong, leave it undone. Finish what you start. A boy picks up one toy or craft or game after another, leaving a trail of half-finished projects through his childhood. A man carefully decides what projects he will begin — he does not rush into things in the heat of blind emotional enthusiasm — and then sees them through to the end.
Pull your weight and shoulder your own responsibilities. For example, when you call in sick to work, when you really just want to loaf around, you make your fellow employees work much harder or force someone to work on what was supposed to be their scheduled day off.
There is nothing like a clean record, the reputation of being square, absolutely reliable, to help a young man along. There is nothing comparable to truth as a man builder. Nothing else will do more toward your real advancement than the resolve, in starting out on your career, to make your word stand for something, always to tell the truth, whether it is to your immediate material interest or not. Truth and honesty make an impregnable foundation for a noble character. Be honest. If a news site frequently got a story wrong, readers would soon reject it as unreliable.
We can deceive others in very straightforward ways — lying, cheating, stealing — but in more subtle ways as well — in a look or a gesture, in silence, in telling only one part of a story and leaving out another, in passing along gossip, and so on. Another part of being honest is always saying what you mean. Pay back money and return things in a timely manner. Be punctual. If you tell someone that you will meet them Searching for a dependable,honest,true man a certain time, you have essentially made them a promise.
Being on time shows others that you are a man of your word. We wrote about the importance of being on time just last month, and also offered some concrete tips for how to always be punctual. Check out these articles if this is an aspect of reliability you struggle with. Be fair and consistent in rewards and punishments. A reliable man makes very clear what requirements must be met to earn a reward, and what kinds of behaviors warrant punishment. When those standards are met or violated, he doles out rewards and punishments without regards to favoritism or his current mood.
People know exactly what to expect from him, and this builds the resiliency of those under his leadership. Being consistent with your rewards and punishments is especially important if you aim to raise resilient children. When your kid does something wrong, you dispassionately dole out the agreed upon punishment, and hit the reset button — time to try again. When they do something right, you consistently give the agreed upon reward, and let them level up in your trust of them. While, then, the stubborn facts may not be altered, we can…make them serve our ends.
He who thus adjusts himself to circumstances makes them his friends that hasten to help at every turn, while he who fails so to do is surrounded by enemies that continually annoy and attack.Searching for a dependable,honest,true man
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