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Infidelity changes you. It just does. The betrayed, the betrayer, the marriage — everything morphs. Surviving long-term infidelity, however, is particularly exacting. From admission or discovery to atonement to acceptance, the long-term affair is an inevitable call to action. Not a easily overlooked. Year 2 is actually the riskiest year for marriage in terms of infidelity.
All of these statistics may cause more head-shaking than clarification. But in terms of surviving long-term infidelity, a few simple conclusions can be drawn. Both men and women are guilty of cheating.
Not all cheaters come from miserable marriages. Opportunity such as the work environment plays a big role in affair start-ups. And not all infidelity ends in divorce. As difficult as it is to get over any intimate betrayal, surviving long-term infidelity is especially difficult. And that blurs a lot of lines, especially for the betraying spouse.
The marriage represents stability, home, children, shared history, security, extended family, etc. That makes for a big price tag. The affair partner, however, represents excitement, emotional escape, sexual intimacy, and even a sense of reawakened possibilities. By the time an affair has grown into an established relationship, the straying spouse may care deeply about both partners. And no matter where you may as judgment or guilt, everyone involved now has a vested interest — including the affair partner. When a cheating spouse has been given an ultimatum, three choices can be made:.
At least the cheating spouse has a say in the outcome. Assuming the betrayed spouse and affair partner still want their relationships, that fact can seem like an extra dose of injustice. For the betrayed spouse with hopes of surviving long-term infidelity, the following tips are important to keep in mind.
For the betrayer, it may be best to take time out from both relationships to allow space for self-exploration. While everyone involved has consciously or unconsciously made concessions to allow the affair to continue, a decision has to be made. Only you can answer the all-important question: Do you love the other person?
But choosing to end your marriage before a fearless confronting of what real love is might be premature. Many factors feed that reality, not the least of which is the shift in the sacrifices required to maintain an affair. Trust issues will be a veritable herd of elephants in the room, regardless of which relationship you choose. Take away being: surviving long-term infidelity, even for the betrayer, requires a commitment to a lot of hard work.
When two people decide to rebuild their relationship, therapy really needs to be a non-negotiable component of the recovery.
Trying to wing it with the skill sets that led to infidelity in the first place is like the blind leading the blind. For this reason, marriage therapy with therapists who specialize in couples only is the wisest course of action. If your marriage has suffered an infidelity and you want to save it, a private marriage retreat may be the best starting point. Remember, surviving long-term infidelity is a deeply emotional, painful journey into both the known and the unknown.
No matter what the relationship outcomes are, none of the people involved will ever be the same. With compassionate, capable guidance, you can resurrect your marriage to a higher form of itself. Mary Ellen Goggin offers coaching for individuals struggling with the pain of being betrayed and collaborates with her partner Dr.
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