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The field of male psychology, and psychotherapy methods deed specifically for men, are relatively new phenomena. For most of human history, men were defined by their distinct, limited roles as hunters, warriors, and primary providers for their family, tribe and community. These roles were never questioned or debated — and certainly not psychoanalyzed.

Sigmund Freudthe founder of psychoanalysis and modern psychology, and other leading pioneers in the fields of psychology and psychiatry had little to say about a distinct male psychology. Today, there is a growing list of psychologists, research scientists, and other experts who are making major contributions to the understanding of men, from a psychological and interpersonal perspective Bergman, Pollack, Real, Stosny, Wexler, among others.

The fields of cultural anthropology, modern brain science, and psychology are creating a new paradigm for helping men define themselves and their roles today. It seems that we are re-discovering the undeniable fact that men and women are actually quite different.

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And we are beginning to develop a coherent and compassionate understanding of healthy, normal male emotion, behavior, and relationship dynamics. The psychologist B. Mark Schoenberg Growing Up Male, describes a basic foundation for understanding the differences between men and women. This is the historical reality. Gender differentiation evolved out of actual physical, perhaps physiological, necessity. This biological foundation, along with recent findings from modern brain science, helps to explain why men do what they do, feel what they feel, and how they struggle with confusing, even conflicting contemporary role demands and expectations.

Men have primarily been defined by their work roles along with conquests and success in business, sports, wars, and other venturesnot by their role relationships within families or other social groupings.

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Historically, men were dominant over women, driven primarily by physiological factors, and the major forces of historical change were conducted by powerful male rulers and military leaders, a male-dominated church, and other powerful men. The role of men in the workforce, relationships and society has changed dramatically in recent history, as a result of revolutionary economic and social changes. Until very recently, there was no need or expectation for men to communicate in an intimate manner.

Men confronting the new demands and expectations of the 21st century are experiencing increasing levels of stress - often work or relationship related. Fear and shame feeling not good enough deserve special mention here. The problems men experience today often result in, or are influenced by, these emotional states.

Fear and shame result from messages that men are not doing the job — in the work place, or at home. And the job is increasingly difficult to accomplish today, because the man as sole bread winner is unrealistic in this economy. In a sense, life was much easier for men in the past, when they were simply hunters and warriors. Men, who are raised predominately by women, are afraid that certain emotions, and their need for nurturance, means they are not masculine. If they are emotionally vulnerable, sensitive, or dependent on others, they feel ashamed and out of control.

A man who is shamed by childhood abuse or enmeshment with an overprotective mother may become emotionally hypersensitive and subject to narcissistic injury any perceived insult, complaints, criticism, or unmet entitlement needs lead to excessively hurt, angry feelings. There are many challenges for boys learning to be men today, particularly in families where effective male role models are not fully available. In too many families, distressed parents are angry, rejecting, or even abusive.

The male brain often adapts to these circumstances, and can result in defensive role rigidity, anger and rage. Boys learn during childhood to suppress emotion — for boys becoming men, feelings and their expression can be considered shameful. To complicate this situation, boys are not generally socialized or taught to connect, bond, or develop meaningful, emotionally supportive relationships — especially with other boys and men. Boys are physiologically and neurologically oriented toward action, tasks, and playing with objects — not toward relating interpersonally.

Raised primarily by women, boys get most or all of their emotional needs met by women without any required reciprocity on their part. This in emotional, narcissistic injuries as adults when their needs and expectations are not met. Anger develops as a coping mechanism. Nor do they need direct, verbal validation of their feelings or needs. Men have a natural, biological proclivity toward interaction with the environment, more so than the verbally based interactions that women desire.

They do need to know they are appreciated, respected and loved. And men are often quite satisfied by having these needs met with direct, physically nurturing behaviors by women. Many adult men feel a basic sense of security and even love simply by the very presence of the ificant women in their lives.

Men also experience sexual connection as a form of nurturance, acceptance, love, and even emotional security. Sex for men is a primary attachment need — compared to women, who need verbal communication and validation. Men also tend to have fewer friends than women, and when they do, they tend to focus on activities rather than verbal interactions watching sports, hunting and fishing are examples.

Recent findings from modern neuroscience and interpersonal neurobiology show there are unique aspects of the male brain also endocrine and other systems — quite different from female brains. This includes analytical brain structures not emotional deed to solve problems.

Men have an inborn, biologically based competitive instinct. They also have an area of the brain deed for sexual pursuit that is more than 2 times larger than females Brizendine, The brain circuits for fear, aggression and defense are far more prominent in men than in women. In comparison, women have more prominent mirror neuron systems Lady wants sex CA Laguna hills 92653 emotional empathy. The most common diagnoses for men are addictionspersonality disorders such as narcissism, avoidant, and anti-social personality disorders, intermittent explosive disorder, conduct disorder, and ADHD.

Depressionhowever, is very common in men. Men also experience complicating medical issues such as stress-related heart and digestive disorders, and they may also present with a variety of sexual disorders. Other medical concerns may result from drug and alcohol Lady wants sex CA Laguna hills 92653. Men are far less likely to seek help than women, and they often delay getting help until there is a crisis.

Men are less likely to follow through with treatment recommendations by therapists and psychiatrists. Rather, asking for help is viewed or felt by men as shameful. What can be done? In couples therapymen can learn what the feelings mean both her feelings and hiswhy she says what she says, why she does what she does, and men can learn what a woman really wants. Men do best with tasks — homework asments, and specific behavior change that makes sense.

After all, most men want to protect and provide, and they are happy to succeed in those areas when the task is realistic and appropriate.

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Accessibility View Close toolbar. Men's Issues. Historical and Cultural Factors Men have primarily been defined by their work roles along with conquests and success in business, sports, wars, and other venturesnot by their role relationships within families or other social groupings. Presenting Problems by Men Men confronting the new demands and expectations of the 21st century are experiencing increasing levels of stress - often work or relationship related.

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